Emotionally Focused Couples & Family Therapy in Boston & Asheville and throughout MA & NC with paula Zerfoss

Paula Zerfoss, EFT couples and family therapist serving Boston and Asheville
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Same Argument,
Different Tuesday?

Sound familiar? EFT can help you break the pattern–and I'll be right there with you while you do.

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You're Not Broken

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You're Stuck in The Cycle

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You're Not Broken ● You're Stuck in The Cycle ●

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Here's what I know after over two decades of doing couples therapy: there's no bad guy. (Really.)

What’s there is a pattern. A dance you've both learned so well you could do it in your sleep. Maybe one of you pushes, and the other pulls away. Or you both retreat to your corners and wait.

Either way, you end up in the same place, wondering: “how did we get here again?”

That pattern? In EFT, we call it The Cycle. And the good news is that I can help you to change it–right in our sessions.

Take a look at the cycle in action.

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What Brings You Here?

Couples Therapy

Stuck in the same loop and ready to try something different? Good! EFT is different.

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LGBTQ+ Couples Therapy

Your relationship deserves a therapist who gets it. No 101-level explanations required.

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Family Therapy

Parents and teens. Adult children and aging parents. Families get caught in The Cycle too.

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Pre-Commitment Therapy

Thinking about forever? Getting married or something else. Let's make sure you're building on solid ground.

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Online Therapy
in MA & NC

Same depth, different couch. I work with couples and families online across North Carolina and Massachusetts.

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What Clients Are Saying

  • Paula gave us structure and direction in our journey while being encouraging, warm, and professional. I honestly feel that our counseling with Paula saved our marriage and our family! Thank YOU Paula we are so grateful that we found you."

    — MG

  • "She is knowledgeable and engaging but most importantly, accepting. She met us right where we were, without judgement and she has helped us to work through some very difficult situations."

    — CM

  • "My husband and I cannot speak highly enough of Paula! She is incredibly insightful and I felt understood, both as people, and as a couple, very well. She created a safe, but challenging, space for us as a pair…Paula helped bring us to a completely different place where I genuinely felt like we were on the same team."

    — AE

  • "All I can say is GO TO HER and you will not regret it and after you do, go back and write a review to pay-it-forward so more couples can be helped. The progress we have made in our relationship has been incredible, not only have we learned about and improved our relationship but we have also learned so much about ourselves. She has also helped us with our relationship with our kids."

    — MR

  • "I am so grateful we found Paula. When my husband and I started seeing her, I had no idea how to move forward in our relationship and felt very lost, stuck and uncertain of the future. However, Paula did what I worried was the impossible - she was able to bring us back to each other, again and again."

    — SM

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Frequently Asked Questions

  • Yes. It's one of the most researched approaches to couples therapy. Using research-backed approaches matter to me. But the reason I’ve stuck with EFT for over 20 years, and invested so much time into mastering the model is because I’ve seen it change relationships and change lives.  Over and over.

  • That's more common than you'd think. EFT is different. We're not just teaching communication skills. We're getting to the root of why you get stuck.

  • We talk. I ask questions about your relationship, your history, what brings you in now. I'll start to get a picture of your cycle and I’ll begin to look at what gets in the way when you try to resolve a conflict. No one's on trial. I'm just trying to understand how you got here and what's going to help. 

    After the first session I will have an individual session with each of you to understand your history and goals more deeply.

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Ready to Break Out of The Cycle?

You've tried figuring this out on your own. You've tried waiting it out. Maybe you've even tried therapy that didn't quite fit. This is different. And I’ll be with you every step of the way.

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